April 2nd was a day of remembering my mother-in-law’s birthday. It would have been her 88th birthday. She left us in 2014 yet blessed us with many memories and lessons to be remembered.
The purpose for me writing about her this week is because of a question discussed this weekend, what do I want others to remember of me when I am gone? My mother-in-law is the first person who came to mind when this question was asked because she left me with many great life lessons. When I narrow down the examples they fall into three qualities.
- Enjoy Life – Whatever she did, it was with a smile, fun, and food would be included.
- On your birthday, she would sing you the entire song from beginning to end.
- Greeting cards were given on birthdays and holidays. Store bought or homemade you would always receive one with a special note and signature of love.
- Food was a way to show how much she loved you with a special meal or favorite food.
- No matter what came her way the positive side of life was always mentioned. She was a half full glass type of woman, never half empty.
- Loving Unconditionally – She was a listener and accepted others for who they were.
- No matter her opinion she would listen and accept your point of view. She made you feel loved because of the non-judgmental way she let her ears do the listening and her mouth speak of love.
- She didn’t tell people what to do, but let them make their own decisions and then stood by and loved them no matter what the outcome would be.
- Accepting people for who they were, never expecting more or less, simply accepting them.
- Content with Life – She complained very little and would look for positive vs negative in all situations.
- If things didn’t go as expected she would go with the flow and adjust to what was in front of her.
- Never complaining even when there was physical pain involved. Saying out loud that it would do no good to complain because it would happen anyway.
- Being satisfied with whatever would happen. Enjoying the journey of life may it be good or bad.
She enjoyed life, loved unconditionally and was content with whatever was thrown her way.