With our ears open and mouth shut!
If any of you are like me, you’re laughing right now! This is very hard for me to do, how about you?
Effective listening requires concentration and the use of your other senses – not just hearing the words spoken. Listening is not the same as hearing and in order to listen effectively you need to use more than just your ears. Retrieved from www.skillsyouneed.com
By watching and looking for non verbal communication we are listening and concentrating with all our senses. We can hear more of what the whole person is saying. Facial expressions, eye contact, gestures and tone of voice are all helpful when we tune into what others are saying. We can get the whole picture.
In today’s age of texting and Facebook it becomes habit forming to talk through these Medias and not have face to face conversations. This is where the non verbal communication disappears and misjudgments and misunderstandings happen more then we want. It is good for us to have face to face, coffee in hand, looking at each other in the eye time with our friends.
Being a good listener can be a challenge. Sometimes we want to talk about things going on in our world instead of listening. Yet, at times, we need to keep the focus – open ears, shut mouth. It’s our friends time to talk and get what they need off their chest. We need to be a good listener.
By listening more than talking we get to know the person and their true heart. They reveal their likes, dislikes, hopes, dreams and goals. We sincerely get to know who they are and what they want to do. This is when true friendship develops and blossoms.
I challenge you to form these good habits and practice listening more than talking. And, watch your friendships become more solid and meaningful. Ones we can have for a life time.