I have a plan for the day, a few errands, wash a load of clothes, figure out what to make for supper and get some exercise in somewhere along the day. Okay, plan set! I hop in the shower concentrating on the plans and feeling good about the direction and focus for the day.
“Mom? Where are you?”, I hear from the bathroom where I’m nearly finished getting ready. “Mom, look what happened”, coming from my teenage son. The first thing I noticed is a long streak of a fresh blood stain on this left leg of his jeans. I also notice the tear in the jeans. But mostly I notice the look on his face, the expression of ‘I think I really hurt myself this time’. He turns the back of his left arm towards me and I think ‘yep, this is not good’. I see blood at the elbow and swelling which makes the majority of his middle arm area double its normal size.
Doctor Mom instinct kicks in…. clean wound, evaluate severity and if needed go to the ‘real’ doctor! I think to myself, ‘all other plans for the day more than likely will not happen’. “Let’s get this cleaned up so we can see what the damage is”. My boys know my routine; clean it up, see if there are bones sticking out and then see if the real doctor is needed. Having him get down on his knees by the tub with his arm under the faucet, I now can turn the warm water on, get the wash cloth and wash the area up. Telling him and myself, “it’s going to hurt”. The warm water washes off the dry and fresh blood to reveal a fairly large slice right at the tip of the elbow with many areas of road rash surrounding the main lesion.
Next comes the peroxide and my standard comment of a mom who has lived through two active boys through the years, “it’s going to hurt, but we have to do it, grit your teeth and suck it up”! The thoughts that are not expressed are, ‘this is what happens when you skateboard and refuse to wear safety gear’. I know there is no reason to verbalize my thoughts because the response will only be a ‘don’t tell me, I already know’ tone in his voice, of ‘MOM’!!
Three hours later, x-rays, the prognoses and the look of a teenager facing reality are evident. His left elbow is broken and the wrist is severely sprained. Needless to say, the day is nowhere near what I had planned.
As we sit in the room at the clinic waiting for the nurses to get all the supplies to mend the wound and splint his arm from above his elbow to his fingertips, reality continues to set in. Tears start to come to a teen boy who knows he made a mistake. The reality of 4-6 weeks in a cast hit him like a door just slammed in his face. He may not be able to work at his summer jobs as a life guard at the local pool and a farm hand at his brother’s farm.
As for me, I have tried to comfort, but have been pushed away verbally with ‘mom, leave me alone’. While thinking, ‘I just want to hug him and try to say just the right words that will comfort him’. Yet, I sit silently, saying over and over in my mind and paraphrasing Philippians 4:6-7 MSG.
6-7 Don’t fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.
Praying that God will take all twists and turns of this day and make good out of them must be my focus. To give us peace in our minds of things we do not understand and to guard our minds to stay in the present moment and not go to the next what now?
Relying on God during times like this is the only way I make it through the situation. I can’t do it in my own strength. I must have God’s help to know what to say and do next.
When anxious, worried thoughts keep popping in my brain I say one of two scriptures that are my favorite go to’s.
2 Corinthians 10:5 NIV ….and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
Philippians 4:13 NIV 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
I have no control, nor does my son or do you in what the day’s plans may be. God only knows and He doesn’t tend to share or pre warn us! The only prep plan we can have is that of spending time with Him, reading and memorizing scripture to say to ourselves when we need His Words to comfort us.
Be encouraged and know…. when you think you can’t……HE CAN!!